By 2004 both of my
parents had retired, and it was time to start thinking about plans for the
future. They knew they would always retire out to Whitewater Lake ,
and it had been clear for a very long time that the cottage wouldn’t be nearly
large enough for all of their things. At first, my dad was pretty married to
the idea of keeping the house intact, but adding onto it – an idea from which
the builder he’d hired immediately tried to talk him down. While the builder
knew that the house had great sentimental value for my dad, he also (correctly)
recognized that my parents would need something far more stable and efficient,
since they would be spending hopefully many more years there. In the end the
builder won out, and my dad doesn’t regret this decision at all. Why not? Well,
I’ll venture a guess: because one’s sense of place, while certainly informed
and influenced by material objects, is never surpassed by them.
So my parents built
a house which looks like a lot of the other houses on the lake. It’s beige, has
a stone façade at the front door and a two car garage. It’s wired for satellite
television, and they’re waiting for prices to drop a little before they buy
their third high definition set. Although much larger than Aunt Lee’s
place, it’s also more energy-efficient and takes better advantage of natural
east-west cross ventilation. Meanwhile, each summer the lake itself gets a
little more crowded, with bigger and faster speedboats pulling larger numbers
of waterskiers. When I visit in the summertime, we wait until dusk to take out
the pontoon boat where I’m regaled with stories of the latest homes for sale
and what’s being built where. My mother gets to garden, my dad gets to tinker,
and all in all they’re doing just fine.
Living
in a hyper-urban environment for over fifteen years now – Manhattan ,
my sixth and current home – you might question what part of Whitewater Lake
remains with me now. Since my parents still live there, and I visit at least
twice a year, my question would be: what part of it doesn’t? In a lot of ways,
I don’t think I’d be in graduate school studying sustainability if it weren’t
for the experiences I had growing up in both the city and the country. Aunt Lee
was living nearly carbon-neutrally for a very long time, well before there was
a term for it. I might not have known it then, but I can certainly recognize it
now.
What
do I think of my parents’ decision to tear down the cottage and start over? In the
end, Aunt Lee's house was from a different time and, in fact, a remarkably different
place. But if I walk out onto the pier and sit down, I still hear the same water
lapping at the stones on the shoreline, hear the same birds calling out. I still
see the same trees, the same vista, the same horizon. Do I miss the old house?
Not really. If I close my eyes, I can still imagine sitting in Aunt Lee’s
kitchen – like it was yesterday, in fact. The places we love live on, long
after they’re gone.
Thanks for posting these chapters in your story. What a beautiful place!
ReplyDeleteI wonder how our aunt managed without being able to drive. She must have been part of a very supportive community.
Oops, I meant to say "your" aunt.
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Larry
Larry - "our" is just fine, she was definitely the kind of person who counted many among her family. Not having children of her own, I think the kids of all the families for whom she babysat thought of her that way!
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